When I first set out on this journey, I tried to make it as logical as possible. For myself as well as others. I needed to convince myself that I had good reasons to quit my job and pursue something I wasn’t sure I could accomplish. I needed to have a reason to give others that would explain why I was doing this thing that I knew most of them wouldn’t understand. I did not believe that I needed to have everyone’s approval, but I wanted my family, friends and people I respected to think well of me.
As my journey continued, I found that I could not defend my choices because some were going to find what I was doing crazy no matter what I did. I even thought what I was doing was crazy at times, and I was the one doing it. Even though I know that I can’t please everyone, I still try to please more than I should. My parents, my sisters, close friends, coworkers, people I look up to, people who’ve saw my potential when I didn’t. The list goes on. And all of them have slightly different opinions about what I’m doing. Some support what I’m doing, others support it in theory but question my methods, and some don’t support what I’m doing but accept that I have to do what is right for me. It wasn’t long before I realized that I had to make a difficult decision about what was more important to me: my dream or having others think well of me. Was I willing to do something that many, even maybe myself, thought was crazy?
I accepted the absurdity of my choice rather quickly, but I still felt I couldn’t tell others what I really wanted to do. Questions came so often, and I didn’t know how to answer them. But I knew I needed to hide my true desire. The answer became: “I’m just going to take a little time to figure it out, not rush into things.” When people would ask me what type of job I was wanting, I kept it purposely vague. It was safer that way. I couldn’t tell them the simple truth that I wasn’t looking for a job. I want to pursue my art and writing and maybe find a way through them to make enough money to sustain myself. I’m not looking to be rich; I just want the ability to live a happy life, and a traditional job won’t give me that. I’ve tried.
But now I’m accepting my madness. I can’t change people’s opinions, and there will always be those who think I’ve made the wrong choice–that this is crazy and that I am crazy for doing it. And to them I say you’re right! It is an insane decision to just decide to put all my effort into art and writing. But I’m still taking the plunge. You might want to ask yourself why it bothers you. It might lead to your own enlightenment.